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Are you in the right relationship? How could you possibly know? Do you feel that getting back to this person was a mistake? Sometimes after a break up. The only thing you want is the other person. But once you do that you begin to think if it was the right option for you.

There is secret you have to know if you are in the right relationship. You can only discover if you are in the right relationship at the right time. Things can change, but you must be in the right relationship at the right time.

You have to find real answers for some serious question to know if this relationship is right for you today. Some examples for these questions are:

-Are you happy?

-What do you really feel about the relationship?

-Do you feel sad or unsafe?

Of course you will not be happy all the time, everyone has good days and bad days, but you have to be happy in general.

You may have some doubts or bad feelings from time to time, if you really feel good towards the person and the relationship then you are in a great relationship. Don’t let the bad feelings that comes on a sudden make you wonder if you are not in the right relationship.

When you feel sad, ask yourself why. Is this happening because you think about another person and that you like to be with him or her instead? Or are they just general concerns about the potentials you might be missing if you did not break up with your partner?

Everyone has some crazy thoughts and obsessions once in a while. But if you are preoccupied by these types of questions that begin with "what if" and "if only", you might not be in the right relationship.

Do you feel safe and content in the relationship? This means that you are emotionally and physically safe; your partner does not hurt you either emotionally or physically. You feel that they would not want to hurt you for any reason.

Do you feel safe from the break up or divorce? Or do you worry about your partner cheating? Do you feel any threat to your future? If you spend a lot of your time in the relationship asking yourself if your partner is capable of cheating, then you might not be with the right person.

If you think the person is cheating, then you will exhaust your emotional energy in thinking what are the real motives of your partner, this could become an obsession and will ruin your life. You need to figure out if your concerns are justifiable.

Do that person actually cheat? or do you feel insecure? You can not be in a romantic relationship with someone if you do not trust him or her. That will make you nervous, suspicious and desperate all the time; this might end in a dramatic way leaving incurable heartbreaks.

Do you feel special? If you feel like you are constantly trying to give for the relationship, get your partner’s attention and affection, you might look for someone who deserves all these unstoppable emotions. You should feel like the person most important to your partner if you’re in the right relationship, and they should feel the same.

Jim Rohn is one of the true greats in the motivational field. Let’s take one little quote of his right now,

“What we ponder and what we think about sets the course of our life. Any day we wish, we can discipline ourselves to change it all. Any day we wish we can open a book that will open our mind to new knowledge. Any day we wish we can start a new activity. Any day we wish we can start the process of life change. We can do it immediately, or next week, or next month, or next year”

Or we can go to our grave never having done it…

What he says is true, any day we wish! No such thing exists as too dumb, too ugly, too disfigured, even, too stupid, wrong background, wrong religion, wrong race, wrong color, wrong age, wrong state of health although that’s one challenge you would obviously want to work on. I mean you can’t change your race, but you can start improving your health in some way, any day you wish.

Any day you wish, if you’re tired of the monotony you can begin the process of change.

Any day you wish, if you’d like to earn more money, you can begin the process of change.

Any day you wish, the ball’s in your court.

There’s three things, philosophy, strategy, action.

See, you and I, for instance, we know people - let me give you a story, company’s called Critter Control. It’s a good company if you ever get animals in your attic or in your basement and would like to have someone professional solve the issue for you, give them a call, they’ve got a 1-800 number, +1-800-Critter. (There’s a free marketing lesson for you there in that one!)

But, the fine gentleman who has the franchise here in Nashville, talking to him - he was doing work at my place - and he was telling me that he was - this was like 20 years ago, he was there with the founder of Critter Control. He was working side-by, he was working for, working side-by-side the founder.

And you know, it was just a job, so he twisted off and did something different, series of jobs and series of - you know you get off at 6:00 and go home and drink beer… And, “Don’t call me to come back to work because I’ve already had 2 beers!”, when they actually have already had 4… Know what I mean?

Twenty years later, Critter Control is in something like, and these are not exact figures, I’m just remembering the conversation, something like 26 states and 4 to 6 countries. It’s a big thing. And now Mike has got his own franchise.

Hey, he knew the business; he knew the business 20-years ago. It wasn’t not knowing the business, it was doing the business or not. Now he’s got a franchise. He’s happy.

And this other man that he started out with is a multi-millionaire.

Any day you wish you can change the direction of your history, of your destiny. Everything you do leads to a final outcome. Any day you wish you can change the direction that you’re headed.

1. Positive Thinking- Stop telling yourself the job is hard or unpleasant. Tell yourself how good you are at it, or how quickly you can finish. Find something good about the job. Can you learn something? Will it earn you money? Look for the good and it won’t seem so hard.

2. Set a Goal-A goal gets you motivated because as you do each step you can see yourself making progress. Think about how you are going to get the job done. Work out a simple step-by-step plan and just follow the steps.

3. Get the Habit- It takes thirty repetitions before something becomes a habit but if you develop the habit of doing things in order, you will find they almost do themselves. You won’t even have to think that unpleasant job; you’ll be busy doing it.

4. Dress for Success- Instead of just throwing on the nearest thing in your wardrobe; think about what you intend to wear. If you dress well, you feel good. Dress as if you were successful, attractive and ready for a promotion. You will be surprised at how good it makes you feel and watch out for the change in the way others behave towards you.

5. See The End Result- Sometimes we find it hard to get started because all we can see is the hard work we will need to do. Instead, try picturing the end result. Take time to really feel the satisfaction of a job well done.

6. Limit Yourself- If you just can’t get started on one of those horrible jobs and you think you will never see the end, decide to just do a few minutes a day, or a week. Start with an easy 15 minutes and then see if you can manage another 15 minutes. If you just have to do 15 minutes work it will be easier to make a start. Once you’re motivated, you may find you can finish the job. If not, there’s always 15 minutes, tomorrow.

7. Tidy your Workspace- It’s impossible to get started on a new project if all the mess from the last few is still scattered over your workspace. Clear the clutter and start fresh. It will help clear the clutter in your head as well.

8. Get moving. Sometimes all we need is to get up and move. Try to go for a walk or get some other form of exercise. We all have those days where we just can’t seem to get started but a bit of fresh air changes our perspective and kick starts our brain. While you’re walking, you can plan your next move.

9. Eat a healthy breakfast- Breakfast is the most important meal of the day and if you don’t look after your body, it can’t look after you. If you feel sluggish and unmotivated, it could just be because your body needs good fuel.

10. Find a Friend- Sometimes we won’t do something for ourselves but will for a friend. Find a motivation partner who will give you a kick in the pants when you need it. You could be their motivation partner too.