Do You Think Failure is Learned?

So we all know that no one wants to be stuck all the time in overwhelm, always trying to catch up financially just to keep current? Always afraid of where our future lays. And aren’t we all sick of doing things alone and feeling like the other guy has a “secret” guidebook we never had?

And you know what one of the key hang-ups is for most people?

The fear of falling. In other words, fear of failure. This is one of the primary things that keeps most people from taking a chance on THEMSELVES! So, those great goals, dreams, and ambitions never even have a chance.

Now the funny thing is that as children, we fall a lot. I mean A LOT! But we always got back up and kept on trying.

Why?

Because we knew we would eventually walk. In fact we were determined to master it. We saw others do it before us, and there was even the bonus of eventually being able to run! So, children never get into the fear zone. They never say; “Well I guess walking is just meant for some lucky ones but not for me.” No! They kept on trying until they got it right.

Who else keeps on trying until they get it right? Successful people. The Top 1%.

Do they fall down? Of course. In fact, A LOT! But what makes them the Top 1% is that they know they will fall many more times and it’s all in how quickly they get up again that makes them the successful people they are today.

And as for luck – because we as a society tend to focus on those lucky people we see in the media – Typically, these are people who have won the lottery, and statistically end up back in their old habits and are broke or in trouble in no time.

And the other “lucky” rich people? These are primarily trust fund kids who the majority, too, also winds up broke or pathetic. Don’t believe me? Google millionaires who’ve won the lottery and see where most of them are today. Or just turn on the TV to see how many reality shows there are about former rich, spoiled, broke, kids.

But the Top 1%? They know the tools they need to make a great life for themselves and keep it!

So what do you think? Am I wrong? Are some of us just destined to fail? Or is this something we learned along the way, and then why can’t most unlearn it? Why would someone who is smart, driven, and has a great dream or idea never act on it because he’s afraid of failing?

Talk to me! Tell me what you think.

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Craig Copeland
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If you find yourself with deteriorating health, weight, relationships or finances, you might be in a downward spiral. Sometimes it happens very fast, or it can be a slow, steady decline that you’ve just gotten used to. Either way, it’s an opportunity for learning and growth.

If you find yourself tumbling, here are five steps to help you change direction and right yourself.

1. Create self-awareness. As Einstein said, “You can never solve a problem on the level on which it was created.” Therefore, you need some new thinking. You need to pay close attention. Be brutally honest. Be willing to see what you don’t want to see, hear what you might not want to hear. Ask yourself, “What am I doing that is contributing to this problem?” You can also ask: “Why is this happening for me?” There is always something to be learned, if you’re open. Don’t ask, “Why is this happening to me?” Little good comes of that. If you’re really brave and open to feedback, you can ask others you trust for their perspective.

2. Get support. Yes, it’s difficult for most people to open up, be vulnerable and share the problem. Be it medical support, counseling or coaching, chances are you could benefit from an objective source, over and above family and friends. Perspective is everything and can change in the blink of an eye when you get out of your head. Don’t wait until you have a crisis.

3. Ask questions. Find out everything you need to learn. Knowledge is power. With access to the internet, there is no excuse to be uninformed and in the dark. Look for respected and reliable sources, of course. Do your research. Talk to others and learn what you need to know. That helps determine your actions.

4. Take responsibility. If you don’t own up to a problem, there will be no solution or remedy. Admit it, “If I keep this up, I will be bankrupt, dead, alone……” If you deny you have a problem, you just create a bigger problem, a deeper hole. The universe will continue to give you opportunities to step into the problem until you get it and are willing to feel the pain.

5. Act NOW. If you’re not acting, or you’re procrastinating, there’s a good chance there is fear at the root. Try to get to the bottom of it and work your way up, one small step at a time. Feeling overwhelmed can stall you when you look too far ahead. Stay focused on the present, and, as author Susan Jeffers book title says, “Feel the fear and do it anyway.”

While some things are out of your control, like the stock market, many things are not. When it comes to good health, there are so many things you can be doing now, like dental hygiene, for example. Researchers believe that bacteria and inflammation from the mouth are linked to other health problems in the rest of the body.

Do you have regular check-ups? Do you look after your body inside and out? When things go wrong one health issue can cascade into another. Being pro-active today helps prevent problems tomorrow.

You can do more for your health and happiness than any doctor or drug can do. Please don’t wait to get sick and then expect to be fixed. It all starts with you. Good health is something to be happy about, and being happy creates good health.

I invite you to visit http://www.weightandwellnesscoach.ca for more articles like these. Claudette Pelletier-Hannah, ACC, is a weight and wellness coach. Her balanced, holistic approach leads to healthier, happier people in smaller pants.

Have you had it with the same old rat race? Is getting out of bed in the morning becoming more and more difficult and more and more you’re looking forward to Friday afternoon?

Perhaps it’s time you considered finding a personal life coach – someone to help remind you who you really are.

In general, coaching is a method of directing and training to achieve a goal or develop a skill set. A life coach is an ally and a partner who acts as a guide, a support, an objective observer, a listener who hears what’s between the lines in order to help you achieve what you want out of life.

These are the keys to happiness, feelings of satisfaction and increased self-confidence.

We can all benefit from having someone who is knowledgeable and helpful to guide us over the rough patches and maybe even to help us accept with joy, the smooth paths, too. Sometimes we just need to commit to making a lifestyle change.

Nearly everyone has areas in their lives that could use some improvement. Although there are a number of ways to make improvements, sometimes it’s better to find another person, a mentor of sorts, to help us with that. There are a number of different ways and techniques that a qualified life coach can use.

One of those methods is called the Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT. It is often referred to as needless acupuncture. Although this is not something that I currently use, I have seen the results that it can produce and they can be quite remarkable.

EFT uses the energy pathways in your body called meridians, or “chi” in Chinese medicine. A stressful and fast paced life can block the flow of energy and actually cause destructive thoughts and feelings as well as physical aches and pains. Tapping on specific meridians can restore the free flow of energy, even in underlying tissues, which can block personal progress in any number of ways.

Another technique is to begin with a vague picture of where you’d like to be in your life. By focusing on where you’d like to be instead of where you are, specifics become clearer as your vague picture feels more and more believable to you. Where focus goes, energy flows.

It isn’t necessary to make a trip to an office and lie on a couch for an hour at a time. While you definitely want to meet with your life coach in person, many life coaches also work through phone calls, email, and even text messaging in an emergency.

Most life coaches will ask that you fill out a form designed to help you examine the area(s) in your life that you’re having trouble with, such as balancing family and career life. Subjects can include questions about your talents, you key goals, or challenges you have now or expect in the future.

These questions are essential to help pinpoint the issues you need help with. Follow up questions at given intervals help ascertain your progress.

While styles of coaching can vary, your personal life coach should be someone who can understand your issues and help you use effective behavior modification techniques and mental exercises to improve your attitudes toward work, family, and life in general.

Martin Biginelli is a UK based life coach who also provides professional business coaching to small businesses and corporate clients. You can find out more about these services, as well as life skills coaching by visiting his website at http://www.CoachingFourSuccess.com.

Here’s the thing – sometimes a seemingly very good thing can actually be a very bad thing if you’re not careful. Case in point – the issue of multi-tasking.

Everyone I know who claims to be a heavy multitasker is overwhelmingly proud of the fact, and for good reason. They’re able to get five or more things done at a time and they don’t seem to be slowed by the heavy workload.

But, if you dig deeper and really look into what those people are doing (and how easily distracted they tend to be), you’ll find that multitasking on that level is a huge no-no.

Why to Avoid Multitasking

As a mother, I would never say that multitasking is a bad thing. If I couldn’t get more than one thing done at a time, I would never be able to successfully run my business and keep my kids happy and healthy.

But, there is a fine line between getting a few extra things done and trying to do multiple tasks at once for no particular reason.

Case in point – someone who decides that they have this really fantastic idea for a website but already have a website in development and a couple of small side projects that would be fun to work on over the weekend. Four projects? Really. My head’s spinning just thinking of the scenario.

For the heavy multi-tasker, this might seem like an ideal problem – the kind that your rapid-fire brain can handle.

But, in truth, what really happens is that you get distracted easily, move from one task to the next and no single task is ever completed wholly. According to a Stanford University study released in 2009, multitaskers cannot “help thinking about the task they [aren't] doing”.

They want every piece of information they can find and they want to use it all at once. Sound familiar?

It’s because most of us are just that – the types of people who want to do everything at the same time. But, for those of us who have been down the path of way too many tasks and seen what it can do to our productivity, there is a better way.

Tamping Down with Low Multitasking

Now, we come to my favourite part – the good kind of multitasking. Low multitasking is where you recognize that there are some things you’ll need to do at the same time, but you don’t give yourself an unnecessarily large slate of extra projects.

A low multitasker is someone who does three or four things at a time, all related to the same project. Say you have a website that needs new graphics, some text written, and a bit of additional research before launching
an AdWords campaign – that’s when you’ll need to kick in those low multi-tasking abilities.

No distractions and you’re able to get a lot done at once.

Multi-tasking is vital to good business ownership, but if you’re going to do more than one thing at a time, be sure they’re related and that you’re not taking on more than you can handle. Seriously – it’s just too much for some people and it can literally sink your entire business, not just one project.

Learn more about web business multitasking by visiting Annie Betteridge at ChristianBusinessIdea.com today.

New opportunities surround me every day. All I need to do is recognize them and take the leap of faith. I have an abundance mindset that keeps my mind open to these new opportunities.

Each morning I greet the new day with excitement and anticipation. I give thanks for my blessings and wonder what good this day will bring. When I search for the good in my day, I often find beautiful, hidden gems.

Living in the moment helps me recognize new opportunities. When I focus on the present, regrets of the past and worries of the future simply cannot exist. I explore all options of the moment in my mind and take decisive action to seize those opportunities that can benefit me.

My abundance mindset includes a healthy optimism that brings me confidence and helps me get over any hurdles in my path. When challenges arise, I expect that there is a solution and I seek it out. I inevitably find it and continue happily toward my goal.

Today, “Seize the day!” is my mantra. My plan is to keep an eye out for those opportunities that I know, without a doubt, will appear and then go for them with all the gusto I’ve got!

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Do I expect that good things will happen to me each day?
2. How can I make my mind more open to new possibilities?
3. How can I encourage myself to take swift action on the opportunities I find?

Strong communication skills are necessary in any relationship and it’s difficult to maintain that communication when you’re on differing schedules. In this situation, making an extra effort to reach out to your partner can make all the difference.

Keep the following tips in mind for maintaining a strong relationship:

1. Deal with conflicts as soon as they arise. When you’re on opposite schedules, it’s important to deal with conflicts immediately, because otherwise they begin to fester. It’s tempting to just wait until a more convenient time, but many times that time never comes.

• With precious little time together, your instincts might be to ignore the conflict, but it’s better to deal with it before it turns into something larger. If you can’t discuss it face to face, arrange to talk on the phone.

2. Concentrate on quality time. When you’re together, do your best to make this time count. Discuss your thoughts and do things that make you both happy. Avoid wasting the time away by discussing bills or petty issues.

3. Split chores. When you’re both busy, it’s hard to decide who should be responsible for what around the home. Decide on how you’re going to split the chores ahead of time. Stick to an assigned schedule so there won’t be any future arguing about who didn’t do what and when.

4. Help each other. If you have the extra time, go out of your way to help out your partner. This action will show them that you care about them deeply. Being on opposing schedules is daunting at times, so every little thing you can say or do to communicate positive feelings to your partner is a good thing.

5. Leave love notes. These notes don’t always have to be romantic or profound. Maybe you can just let your partner know that you made a special dinner for her when she comes home. It doesn’t really matter what you say, only that you’re adding one more way of talking to your partner when you can’t physically be there.

6. Plan a vacation. When you find some time to yourself, sit down and plan out your family vacation. This can be a fun activity even if the vacation is taking place several months in the future. It allows you to picture a time when the whole family will be together without having to worry about the scheduling conflicts.

7. Make time for intimacy. Intimacy doesn’t always mean physical intimacy, although it can. Being on opposing schedules is tiring and it may feel like you have more of a roommate than a partner.

• Find a way to remind your partner how you feel about him or her. You may only have a few moments together, but you can make the most of those moments.

8. Be there for each other. While you can’t always physically be there, figure out a way to be there for your partner when they’re going through a tough time. They may need to lean on you more often, and you don’t want them to feel alone. You can send frequent emails or text messages, and make time for frequent phone calls as well.

While being on opposing schedules can present a challenge, it doesn’t mean that your relationship has to be on the rocks. The two of you can still lead normal and perfectly happy lives. Use these strategies to help bring you that closeness, even when your schedules keep you apart.

When you gain the wisdom of patience, you can improve your life as well as the lives of the people around you. Not only that, but you’ll also become a calmer and peaceful person.

You might find that you’re patient in some areas, and lacking in others. No matter where you stand, you can always further develop the skill of patience.

Remember That Everyone Is Different

Are you accepting of yourself and others? It’s quite difficult to avoid comparing yourself to others, and when you do compare, you might be setting yourself up for disappointment.

For example, if you’re attempting to learn a new skill, it might take you longer to become an expert and that’s okay. If you have the patience to see it through to the end, you’ll eventually get there.

There are also certain things that people don’t have any control over, and as fate may have it, you may have to display quite a bit more patience than someone else in the same situation. If you accept the situation you’ve been given, you’ll certainly have an easier time of it!

Help Others With Their Skills

Do you find yourself in situations where you become easily frustrated with others? Perhaps they haven’t done as good a job as you think you could do.

Rather than letting those negative emotions fester inside you, take action to fix the situation instead. Lend a helping hand in order to help them develop their skill. Teach others instead of resorting to anger and frustration!

Helping others benefits everyone involved in the long run, and all it takes is the patience to help others with the little tasks.

Act Rather Than React

When a lack of patience starts to bring out you frustrations, there’s probably something you can do besides just thinking about the situation. If you keep yourself busy, there won’t be any time to let the frustration show.

Just tell yourself that you don’t have the option of waiting. You can either take action to fix the situation, or occupy your time with something more beneficial to you. Instead of waiting, maybe there’s something else you can do that’s enjoyable. You can even just take joy in experiencing the present moment and relax.

Count To Ten

Sometimes you may feel like you’re at the end of your rope and fear that you may react inappropriately because of a lack of patience. In this case you can practice the “count to ten” rule.

Tell yourself that no matter what, you can’t react immediately to a situation. Take a deep breath and slowly count to ten. These brief moments may be all it takes to get you to act calmly and rationally.

See Things From Another Point Of View

You can also get into the habit of seeing things from another point of view. When all else has failed, put yourself into another person’s shoes and broaden your horizons. Understand that everyone is not like you; they don’t have the same thoughts, opinions, or abilities. Seeing the same situation through the eyes of others may be enough to bring you wisdom and patience.

Incorporate these techniques into your daily life and, rather than facing the frustration of impatience, you’ll feel the joy that more patience and understanding brings!

What are Inspirational Phrases?

What do they do, who utilizes them and why? Oprah, CEO’s and Salesmen are notorious for creating motivating art and posting inspiring quotes in their office of home to inspire them. Many write their goals as phrases for inspiration and post them on walls or computers. A quote or a phrase is ordinary. The key word is inspirational. Because Inspirational phrases or words can produce a divine like influence that stimulates the mind to a high degree of feeling or activity…

Inspirational Gifts Encourage

Friends and family give cards, books, music and art to one another with the hope of inspiring others to encourage, achieve or continue greatness.

Why are these so effective? They have been used for centuries.

An inspirational phrase is different from a quote. A quote is an excerpt of something someone said.

Words plus inspiration equal divine like results.

The key word is inspirational. Inspirational phrases or words can produce a divine like influence that stimulates the mind to a high degree of feeling or activity. Some quotes are inspirational others are like a phrase- without the inspiration.

“Words plus inspiration equal divine like results.”

Inspirational words or phrases are so important because when heard they seem to have a divine quality to them when heard. Either the person saying the words are divinely inspired or the person who heard them or divinely inspired to act or inspired to act in a more divine manner.

Inspiration as the dictionary details is the stimulation of the mind or emotions to a high level of feeling or activity,

Inspirational word or phrase can spark a sudden creative idea or act or solution.

That is why they are so important. why people seek to find them, read them and listen to them.

Literally something Divine happens.

The origins come from the word Inspirare “inspire, inflame, blow into”

An influence that is directly exerted on the mind and soul of the human being. After all the word Inspire literally means from the greek “God breathed” from which we get the word related to breathing in and out to inspire. Opposite of to exhale.

For me hearing inspiring words is as essential as breathing in and out.

How, what and when are you inspired?

While writing this article on inspirational phrases I sent a FB post asking “What inspires you?” immediately was struck by the 5 replies – they ranged in reply from a. My husband (Relationship) b. Spending time in nature, music, exploring, art galleries, shopping in antique shops, hanging out with creative people.

Music, reading the bible ( God- Religion) Reading posts of friends ( I guess it may depend on the type of friends you have -but knowing this person she probably has a lot of inspiration inspiring friends.

Well, I get inspired by reading the inspired posts of my friends.

What inspires you!

Some of us are inspired by nature, music, art other people, quotes, words or inspirational phrases.

Whatever our motivations we are changed by our inspirations.

Looks like many things inspire people and some are inspired by words and phrases more than others.

Utilizing Inspirational phrases seems like an inexpensive and easy way to get that charge of inspiration – my goal is to keep them in front of me at all times as many times as I can. Through books, calendars, posters etc. I’ll start collecting those at Inspirational Phrases.

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